Our method of Family Constellations neatly combines shamanic practices with therapeutic techniques. This unique approach creates a healing field that allows us to explore and heal deeply hidden familial issues that significantly impact our relationships and ability to progress and achieve success in our life. The field is held with the same medicine wheel that we use in our shamanic clearings.
This method can reveal the hidden dynamics within a family, as well as entity manipulation, to resolve long-standing family patterns and help you find peace and acceptance within your lineage. You can finally feel like you belong and play an important role in your family.
This healing journey does not require complete knowledge of the family history. However, clients have found that the effort made to understand major events such as tragedies, migrations, and the secrets that shaped the collective family psyche, immediately opens the heart to understanding and healing. Regardless of prior family knowledge, if you approach these sessions with an open mind and a willingness to engage deeply with the process, you can achieve profound insights and lasting changes. It’s about trusting the wisdom of the body, the guiding hand of the practitioner, and the family soul to create an environment where transformation and healing can occur.
As Milton Erickson famously said, "It's never too late to have a perfect childhood." This statement beautifully encapsulates the potential of Family Constellations to reframe and heal our past interactions and experiences. By establishing a 'right order' within the family system, we can enhance our internal harmony, making the world around us feel more nurturing and supportive.
An open and trusting attitude is essential to prepare oneself mentally and spiritually, perhaps through meditation or relaxation techniques. This will maximise the healing potential of each session. Trust and full engagement will significantly amplify the benefits, allowing the family soul to deliver the insights and resolutions needed for growth and healing.
It is our job to heal ourselves and lead a conscious life. We start by accepting ourselves and our life. If we can, indeed, love ourselves, we will feel worthy - maybe not perfect - but worthy. If we cannot accept ourselves first, we will not be able to accept others; we will judge them (as we see others as reflections of ourselves).
We need to come to a point in our lives where we can receive the love that is available to us from our lineage - in fullness; regardless of how our life came to us, and whatever the situation and circumstance of our birth. We can do this at any stage of our life. It may help to connect to the nourishing idea that we have received life, and it is a GIFT, no matter the circumstances that created our birth.
Let go of the toxic pain and dysfunction, so you can take your life and the available love in full. If you are not able to do this, you may remain entangled or connected to the pain and toxicity, and risk having to perpetuate the dysfunction.
We all have an unconscious loyalty to ancestral and family patterns, and our family field (or family soul: collective consciousness of the entire family [family deva]) wants to help us resolve these energies and dysfunctional patterns.
In a session, you will be helped to address those things that are not healed in the family energy. This may sometimes require restoring the energy balance within the family field - by empowering our ancestors, or supporting of the "weaken" ones with healing. Or it may involve restoring the in-balance created by overly strong parents or children - which helps them to soften their energy and remove their defence, so that their connection to the ancestral flow of love and life-force is restored.
It may also be necessary to heal our relatives in spirit form, who have not managed to evolve into healthy ancestors; and facilitate appropriate rituals to assist them to reconnect to those that have come before them.
Our bodies and minds are not just reflections of our current experiences but are also deeply shaped by the genetic and energetic ancestral legacies we inherit. This intertwining of past and present is the core focus of epigenetics, a field that reveals how our genes are not fixed blueprints but dynamic elements that respond to our life experiences.
This science shows us that the emotional and physical experiences of our ancestors, as well as those from our early life, can modify our genetic expressions in significant ways — sometimes enhancing our health, other times perpetuating patterns of disease.
The Chemistry of Experience
Every experience we have triggers a chemical reaction within our body. This includes the experiences our mothers had while we were in the womb, which can affect foundational aspects of our own health and personality. Our genetic makeup carries these energetic impressions, serving not only as a record of our biological past but also as a canvas for our personal and ancestral stories. This deep-rooted connection highlights why sometimes, to move forward, we must first look back.
Language: The Vibrational Power Shaping Our DNA
Our words and thoughts are more than expressions; they are vibrational forces that interact directly with our DNA. Soviet Research has demonstrated how human language and genetic code follow similar rules. Like a computer, our DNA stores data from the frequencies, thoughts, beliefs, and vibrations to which we are exposed. This understanding opens a transformative pathway to healing — by altering our linguistic expressions, we can shift our genetic narratives, enabling profound healing and self-realisation. Releasing Old Energies, Welcoming New Realisations. Through practices such as Family Constellations, we can address and amend the lingering effects of our familial past.
This process not only helps release the burdens of unresolved family experiences but also facilitates a reordering within our family lines. By resolving these ancestral disruptions, both love and life force can flow more freely through generations, enhancing our sense of wellbeing and connection.
How to Prepare for a Session
Sometimes it is useful before a session to find out the facts about the family, and any information about and major tragedies, emigrations, illnesses and family secrets. If you can let go and trust your own inner wisdom, you can gain a lot of insight from a single session. You will always get what you need and are ready to integrate. Meditation and relaxation before your session can assist you to relax deeply and let go during the session. However, a vested interest in the outcome, can do wonders to spark your family soul's interest in providing answers. Try to remain open minded and let the practitioner know if there are any concerns, doubts and fears that you may have regarding the session. There is nothing to worry about as you are always in control and can stop at any point whenever you choose.
What to Expect
Family Constellations typically takes up to 1.5 - 2 hours and it is prudent to allow up to 3 hours to enable integration.
Take time after a session to integrate your experience. Allow yourself the time, without needing to return to work or undertake any busy activities afterwards. Do not think about the session afterwards (for up to 3 days) and allow the energies to disperse and re-integrate.